Estee Counseling

Therapy & Coaching

Marriage Counseling, Couples Therapy

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love.”

- Tom Robbins

- Couples and Marriage Counseling
- Premarital Counseling
- Divorce Mediation
- Cultural Issues
- The Truth of ‘Happily Ever After’
- You, Me and the Affair
- Infidelity: How to Save Your Marriage
- Choose Love
- Learn to Listen to Your Loved Ones

Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling 

Helping partners give and receive love, gain feelings of intimacy and trust, and transform their relationships to a joyful and fulfilling journey.

Having a high conflict relationship can be emotionally draining. It may cause both partners feelings of rejection and loneliness. Living in an unhappy relationship may lead to depression, anxiety, or addiction. Children that grow up in such an environment may become distressed or even engage in self destructive activities.

Couples therapy is not about trying to change or complain about your partner but learning how to better understand, respect, and appreciate his or her perspective and feelings. It is about stopping the blame, the criticism, and the repeating painful dysfunctional pattern that leads to unhappiness and divorce.

It is possible for you and your partner to overcome many relationship challenges of resentment, frustration, and withdrawal, restore your love to each other and create the relationship you wish. As your relationship therapist I will also address the physical and emotional need for intimacy, how it changes over the life of the marriage or relationship, and how to revive and maintain the spark.

The goal is not only to resolve problems, but to get to the heart of the matter, gain clarity about the relationship, and take action to avoid future misunderstanding.

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
- Friedrich Nietzsche

My Approach

I specialize in helping couples go through difficult times and create trusting, supporting, and nurturing relationship that increases their overall well-being.

In relationship counseling each of you will:

  • Gain insight about yourself and the nature of your relationship
  • Work on yourselves first and strengthen your positive attitude and let go of ineffective responses
  • Recognize changes you can make yourself that will promote satisfaction in your life and relationship
  • Identify feelings and needs and learn to express them constructively without finger pointing or withdrawing
  • Learn how to better understand, respect, and appreciate your partner’s perspectives and feelings
  • Learn to take responsibility of our contribution to some problems
  • Recognize that you can improve what you do before your partner is able to stop his defensive and controlling behavior
  • Learn to think, feel, and act more constructively when difficulties arise
  • Accept that you are the only one who is responsible for what you feel, think, and do
  • Respect the other, accept the differences, and give each other space to develop his/her uniqueness

Premarital counseling 

Premarital counseling is a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for their marriage. It provides a strong foundation for a healthy long lasting relationship - giving you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Pre-marriage counseling can also help you identify areas that could become challenging during the marriage.

Being pro-active and planning for the future is one of the most important things couples can do. It is vital to the success of your relationship. It is much better to have the tough and truthful discussions about your expectations before you get married, not after.

The most important thing a couple can do is to discuss their core values and priorities in life. They have to be aware of their differences in order to identify potential conflicts. In addition, there are six main areas of conversations a couple needs to have before getting married and throughout the marriage:

  • Finances
  • Communication 
  • Intimacy 
  • In-laws 
  • Children 
  • Religion

Premarital counseling would allow you to openly discuss these critical topics with the help of a professional marriage counselor, and make sure you reduce the chance of potential obstacles and disagreements down the road.

Divorce Mediation 

Mediation is for couples who are divorcing. The mediation process helps the divorcing couple separate their lives in a way which minimizes pain, maintains respect and improves cooperation. The benefit of mediation is that it makes the process easier to handle and less expensive than legal action.

Through the mediation process the couple meets for a series of private confidential sessions conducted by a professional and neutral mediator who helps them resolve their disputes. The mediator does not make any decision for the couple, and does not take sides. He helps them to express and clarify their needs, feelings and thoughts about the dispute. The mediator also helps to bridge the differences and guide the couple in achieving agreements that are best for both sides.

Cultural Issues 

Race, ethnicity and religion play a big part in shaping how we experience life. Our background and culture affect how we view ourselves, our spouse, and our marriage. It affects our family values, how we perceive gender roles, how we interact with in-laws, and our relationships with our kids.

As a therapist I have extensive experience working with couples and individuals who came from different origins such as China, India, Iran, Russia, and more.

Estee Goren, M.A., MFT
Marriage and Family Therapy
LMFT 50146

425 El Pintado Road, Suite 150
Danville, CA 94526

(925) 399-1177

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Couples Therapy, Marriage and Family Therapy, Pre Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Infidelity, Affair, Relationship Counseling, Divorce Counseling, in the East Bay area including Danville, Walnut Creek, San Ramon, Lafayette, Alamo, Pleasanton, Dublin, Lafayette, Concord