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“When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.” - Viktor E. Frankl

Good Wolf, Bad Wolf (folk tale)

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves. One is evil. It is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."


By Portia Nelson


I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost ... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.


I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place
but, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.


I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in ... it's a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.


I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.


I walk down another street.

30 Life Lessons

1.     Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2.     When in doubt, listen to your gut feelings.

3.     Life is too short not to enjoy it.

4.     Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5.     Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. Save for things that matter.

6.     You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7.     Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8.     Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

9.     Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

10.   If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

11.   Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

12.   When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

13.   Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

14.   When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

15.   Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

16.   Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

17.   The most important sex organ is the brain.

18.   No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

19.   Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

20.   What other people think of you is none of your business.

21.   Forgive but don’t forget.

22.   Time heals almost everything. Give Time time.

23.   However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

24.   You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

25.   Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

26.   Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

27.   Appreciate what you already have, not what you think you need.

28.   No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

29.   All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

30.   Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.


Based on a post by Regina Brett of The Plain Dealer Newspaper - Cleveland, Ohio.

"I have not failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

- Thomas Edison