The winter holidays are traditionally a celebration with family and friends. They represent a period of excitement and enjoyment, and embody a time when people look forward to reuniting with their loved ones and sharing the holiday spirit in happiness and delight. But for others, the holiday season may be stressful and depressing. This time of year may bring up memories of happier days with loved ones who are no longer around. Some may feel very lonely with no place to go and no one to spend time with. Others may want to be alone, but feel obligated to participate in social gatherings they don’t really want to attend.
This loneliness may trigger depression, despair, and self-destructive behavior. One way to cope with the situation and reduce the stress is to plan how to spend the time during the holidays. Some find it meaningful to volunteer; others prefer to reach out and make plans with friends who may be in a similar situation. Many will find it helpful to include a ritual that symbolizes the memory of their loved one. Being proactive and engaging in activities that bring pleasure can make it easier to get through this holiday season.
Estee Goren, M.A., is a Marriage & Family Therapist (MFC 50146) working with teens, adults and couples. She is specializing in relationship, life transitions, illnesses, grief, and personal development. Her goal is to help others gain a new perspective, overcome personal challenges, and improve their overall well-being.
