“If we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.”
– Anthony Robbins
As the New Year is here, many of us are planning to change our lifestyles. We set goals to work out more, lose weight, eat healthier, find a companion, and more. But we often end up keeping our commitments only for a short while, and soon fall back into our usual routine. Why is it that we can’t keep our commitments? Is it lack of willpower? Resistance to change? Or is it our unconscious mind that controls our feelings, thoughts, and behavior?
To make a lasting change in our life, we need to be fully aware of our beliefs, emotions, and habits, and the effects they have on our lives. We need to have a clear vision of our desired lifestyle, and we need to understand our actions and reactions to certain events. We also must discover our underlying motives, and the true reasons we pursue those goals and dreams. Only then we will truly create and follow a roadmap that promotes meaningful and lasting results.
Estee Goren, M.A., is a Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT 50146) working with couples and individuals. She is specializing in relationship, life transitions, illnesses, grief, and personal development. Her goal is to help others gain a new perspective, overcome personal challenges, and improve their overall well-being.
